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Phone Coaching/Counseling

  • To reserve an hour with a trained, experienced therapist (40 plus years), new clients can save $30 and be stress free.
  • Call 305-461-9726
  • Reserve a mutually convenient time
  • Pay$100 for your session by giving me your credit card.  information- confidential  This fee will by good through 2017.
  • Pay pal is also an option.
  • I look forward to speaking with you.

Calculate Your Results

20+  If you answered “yes” to 20 or more of the previous questions, you are on your way to a new and satisfying life together.

10-15 Answered “Yes”  You are in the recovery phase.

5-10    You are still wondering whether or not you can survive the affair.

-5  You are still in the crisis phase.  Counseling is probably indicated to do some crisis management.

How Does Your Relationship Fare?

  1. Have you been married for more than 10 years?  Yes or No
  2. Do you have children?
  3. Do you share a mortgage?
  4. Do you have pets?
  5. Do you have share friends?
  6. Do you have sex more than once a month?
  7. Do you sleep in the same bed?
  8. Do you compliment each other?
  9. Do you work from home?
  10. Is this the first extra-marital affair?
  11. Have your parents been faithful to each other?
  12. Have you discussed monogamy?
  13. Do you have good sex?
  14. Do you have fun together?
  15. Do you have any shared hobbies?
  16. Do you have dinner together at the table?
  17. Have you gone on vacation together in the last 2 years?
  18. Do you resolve arguments within 2 to 4 days
  19. Do you answer each other’s questions about the affair?
  20. Do you empathize with each other’s feelings?

Couples and Money

Money is the number one issue that couples may argue about.  One person may not work, one person may earn considerably more than the other.  One partner may be a spender and the other a saver.  Computing how expenses will be divided may need help from a financial advisor.

Money arguments may have more to do with control or power issues.  As in any conflict, talk, listen and don’t attack.  And discuss finances before the wedding.

Go to Suzy Orman for advice on financial issues and determining your potential mate’s spending habits.

New Year’s Resolutions

Want help with staying on track with your resolutions for 2016?  Want help in formulating resolutions?  Four visits for the fee of three for new clients.  Call 305-461-9726.  Happy New Year.

Are You Ready to Date?

When should you start dating again after a divorce or the end of a long term relationship?  There is no right or wrong answer to this question, but this will help you consider the emotional issues that accompany being newly single.

 

1.  What are some activities that you would enjoy on a date, but not by yourself or with a friend?

 

2.  Do you have newly single friends who can give you advice on dating?

 

3.  What are some important charactistics of a person you would consider dating?

 

4.  Can you think of a reason that you are not yet ready to date?

 

5.  What wouold be some difficult issues for you to deal with when you date again?

 

6.  Are there specific dating or relationship skills that you need to work on?

 

Refresher Course on The Law of Attraction

     You have heard of the Law of Attraction and possibly even used it to enhance your life.  Here are the 7 steps to implement the Law.

1.  Meditate for 5 to 10 minutes.

2.  Be sure what you want and when you do decide, don’t doubt yourself.  Be sure it is something you have strong enthusiasm for.

3.  Make your request from the Universe.  See this as already yours. See your desired home, vacation, relationship, etc.

4.  Write your wish down.  Everyday imagine your desire as if it is coming to you.

5.  Feel the way you will feel after receiving your wish.  This is the most important step.

6.  Thank the Universe.  Write down all that you have to be thankful for.

7.  Be patient. Trust the Universe.  Don’t stress.  Focus on only one wish at a time.

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What Works for You?

I work with managed-care  companies and self-pay clients. I give my best to all clients, and my fees low enough so that most people can afford self-pay.

With self-pay, would you like to be able to email me between sessions, have a session by email or on the phone?

Would you appreciate the assurance of absolute privacy?  Wouldn’t you like knowing that, I, as your coach/therapist am available to you more often than through managed care?

I have four and a half decades of experience.  I am licensed and mandated to take courses to update my knowledge.

You need to search for a potential therapist very carefully.  Look for experience coupled with compassion.

Whatevere works for you, call me at 305-461-9726.  Let’s chat and see if we click.  My voice mail is confidential if I am not available.

 

 

Benefits of Relationship Coaching

Coaching is very effective for anyone who wants life improvement and goal achievement.  Coaching is a therapeutic model used by many relationship counselors and therapists to assist people in achieving their relationship goals.  The coach assists clients in overcoming blocks, setting and achieving goals.  Psychotherapy is generally more concerned with the client’s past — working through trauma, blocks, earlier experiences, etc., whereas coaching is generally more concerned with the present and future — setting clear goals and going about attaining them.  Coaching is focused on goal achievement and movement forward.  Following are some of the benefits of Relationship Coaching.

  • Helps clients make decisions.
  • Assists clients in formulating realistic goals, with steps, substeps, tasks and timelines.
  • Creates structure for improvements and sustainable personal growth.
  • Provides an objective viewpoint.
  • Encourages insight and commitment.
  • Assists people in producing extraordinary results in their relationships.
  • Motivates and inspires clients to keep moving forward.
  • Unleashes personal greatness.
  • Assists clients in overcoming obstacles.
  • Provides support, encouragement and validation.
  • Provides encouragement and accountability.
  • Monitors and validates progress.
  • Helps client find their own answers inside of them.
  • Educates clients on the use and value of relaxation, guided imagery, visualization and positive affirmations.
  • Assists clients in utilizing their skills to the height of their potential.
  • Can be done face to face, by phone, and/or Internet.
  • Serves as mentor, guide, and “fighter in your corner.”
  • Provides management and organization around the pursuit of your goals.
  • Provides constructive feedback.
  • Assists in achieving life balance.
  • Assists in easing life changes and transitions.
  • Focuses on the “whole” person in a holistic framework.
  • Enhances self-esteem.

The Coach’s job is to motivate clients to move forward toward their goals.  Coach’s function as a support for their clients, while letting their clients know that it is ultimately themselves that they need to please.  Ideally, clients will learn to “coach themselves” during their coaching process.  When clients feel a sense of personal control and self-esteem, they are capable of achieving much more.